The Intimacy Of Relationship

People build relationships through a process of sharing. The sharing of moments during happiness, sadness, and every emotion in between. Many people seek to capture big moments, thinking those are the ones that create anchor points to look back at over time.

Surely those are the ones that set the direction of the journey traveled together. Those are the memorable ones everybody desires to create.

I submit that the genuine moments that bind a couple together are not the big events, but the simple, innocuous occurrences that would be insignificant and completely absurd to anyone else but the two people who shared the moment.

Those are the memories that burn into the hearts of the ones who shared the special interaction that occurred. It is the memory that two people can look at each other and a slight gesture, or a sound can transport both back to the exact moment the event first happened.

A gentle nudge or a small smile is immediately enough to let the other know, “I am there with you, again.”

It is these tiny, intimate moments that build memories that bind two hearts together and sustain them over not years, but decades of time together.

Jesus had that kind of intimacy with the Father and wanted us to have it as well. In the Gospel of John, 14:23, 24, He spoke of a few things about this relationship.

²³ Jesus answered and said to him, “If anyone loves Me, he will keep My word; and My Father will love him, and We will come to him and make Our home with him. ²⁴ He who does not love Me does not keep My words; and the word which you hear is not Mine but the Father’s who sent Me.”

A relationship is about hearing what the other person has to say and holding those words in your heart. We do that in the natural world, and Jesus is asking us to do the same regarding Himself and the Father.

He further spoke the following;

²⁵ “These things I have spoken to you while being present with you. ²⁶ But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you. ²⁷ Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid. ²⁸ You have heard Me say to you, ‘I am going away and coming back to you.’ If you loved Me, you would rejoice because I said, ‘I am going to the Father,’ for My Father is greater than I.

Right here in this passage is the message of intimacy. The Holy Spirit is the one who will bring to your remembrance the little things that you have shared with Jesus and the Father. The only ones who will know and understand those tiny moments are you and them. And it is supposed to be that way. Those are your private and privileged moments you shared with your Lord and your heavenly Father.

I challenge you to build some intimate memories with the one you love, but more importantly with the lover of your soul. The memories that only the two of you would know anything about. These are the ones that will take you back to when your love was young and fresh, and those memories will nourish the love of your older self.

Then you will realize the power of Isaiah 40:31.

But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength;
They shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary,
They shall walk and not faint.